|

5 Uncomfortable Truths About Self Love

ByVanessa
Self Love doesn't always feel warm and fuzzy. It's still worth it, because you're worth it.

My therapist said, “You don’t get the love you want. You get the love you deserve, and the love you deserve is the love you give yourself.”

I don’t know about you, but these words literally changed my brain chemistry. They just made the puzzle pieces in my mind click in place.

For a very long time, I’ve struggled to love myself. I simply did not feel worth loving. Back in the days, I thought that marriage would fix that. I expected my husband to love me the way I desired love for myself.

10 years later, I realize that this was both unfair to him, but also very unrealistic. I’ve learned over the years that people will only love you as much as you value, love and appreciate yourself.

The thing that no one really tells you is that self love is not always warm and fuzzy. Sometimes, you’ll cry because you’re choosing yourself over familiarity. Sometimes, you’ll be uncomfortable and even distressed; but you’ll still have to choose yourself.

Self love, is choosing yourself no matter how you feel in the moment, while thinking of your best interests in the long run. In other words, you’re building the life you want by making choices that set you up for success tomorrow. And you’re making these choices no matter how unpleasant they feel in the moment. .

With that said, here are 5 uncomfortable truths I have learned about self love:

  • Loving yourself will not always feel good. Sometimes, you’ll have to love yourself enough to walk away from people and places you’re deeply attached to for the benefit of your future self.
  • If you’re used to rejecting yourself, for one reason or another, you will find it difficult to choose yourself; you may even feel unworthy to be chosen… and even then, you must choose you.
  • You have to choose yourself even when it’s uncomfortable…. even when it hurts…. even when your heart is screaming out in protest… Believe it or not, it’s a form of self love.
  • Practicing self love is like a muscle. The more you practice loving yourself, the easier it gets, and you’ll begin to find more reasons to show yourself love.
  • As a mother, sister, aunty, etc. you’re not selfish for choosing your own well being. You can’t pour from an empty cup, so you have to push past the guilt and put yourself first in order to be able to put forth your best foot.

Similar Posts